SOMATIC SEXUALITY EDUCATION
Reigniting peoples body mind connection
What is Somatic Sexuality Education?
Somatic Sexuality Education (SSE) is a hands on approach to learning which encompasses the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of our sexuality, gender, intimacy and pleasure. The word Somatic comes from the Greek word soma and literally means we use the body as a tool for learning and growth. I support people to find a felt sense of the change, supporting them to learn they have a choice in their reactions and feelings when expressing their authentic desires, needs and/or boundaries, giving them a physical, tangible experience, as opposed to just talking about it. SSE is definitely about learning to have even better sex than you are already having!
But its also a whole lot more…
It can be about learning new skills either to pleasure yourself or a partner. Learning to re connect in an intimate way after an illness, accident or even child birth. It can also be about overcoming anxiety or stress around intimacy or specific challenges such as an inability to orgasm or ejaculation dysfunction. And just sometimes its because we are simply, and most beautifully, just curious about creating more pleasure in our lives.SSE invites clients to bring all of themselves into the learning space, to tune into the way your body speaks to you via sending and receiving information and explore the unique and diverse way the body learns. SSE is sometimes talking, sometimes learning how to become more aware of our physical sensations and feelings, sometimes body work ( including genital touch if that is deemed valuable ) and always homework. The real work doesn’t happen in my room…it happens in the short, regular homework practices we create to support your learning,
Using our body
as a tool for learning
How it works…
The basis of my work is centered on the cutting edge advances being made in neuroscience. About how our brain develops and works in conjunction with our body and how we apply that knowledge to make long lasting change in our beings. It encompasses Somatic Counselling, Somatic Practices and Body Work, if required and a deep understanding of the ground breaking new field of interconnected neurobiology In order to support people to fully heal and grow to their utmost potential, we need to utilise the information, wisdom and power of our physical beings, realising that our mind and body are in the constant process of influencing each other.
On a scientific level, we are working together to grow new neural pathways in your brain to support a new way of showing up in the world. In practical terms this means teaching people to notice, feel and allow their physical and emotional responses and then support them in using that information within their interactions with others, to create more personal awareness and improve their decision making abilities, to feel more pleasure and to bring more pleasure to their partners and to feel more alive and engaged with life.
Research into neuro plasticity has shown that intentional somatic practice is the fastest pathway to learning and that we learn at an even quicker rate if that intentional practice is pleasurable!Research is also revealing, particularity in the realms of treating trauma, that using body based practices in conjunction with talk therapy, is having much faster and better results than talk therapy alone. As a certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Educator and Somatic Counselor I am trauma informed and uphold the following ethical guidelines.
Who do
I work with…
Anyone and everyone.
I work with people of any and all genders, sexual identities or relationship dynamics.
Genital focused bodywork will only be consented to on people over the age of 18.
Although I specialise in the areas of sexuality, intimacy and pleasure my work is easily transferable to most people who find they are struggling with their current lives.
The people who I best like working with are those that understand that positive change comes from committed practice and understand that it may not be a linear process.
What happens
in a session…
Creating a safe and comfortable environment where you can talk openly and honestly, about any issue you may be having without, fear of being shamed or judged, is my only goal in our work together. I have no other agenda.
Sessions are generally 1.5 hours long and can be held over Zoom or in person at my clinic rooms in the Lower Kaimai’s, Tauranga. Our time together will be a combination of talking, body work, if required, and somatic practices, which are simple yet effective practices working with movement, breath, sound, touch and placement of awareness.
Somatic exercises bring the focus of attention from the mind and back into the body, and can be effective in helping emotions process and move through the body, alleviating symptoms and troubling thoughts.
Somatic Sexuality Sessions are client led, co created and never the same, as my role is to meet you empathetically, congruently and with unconditional positive regard, wherever you are in your journey, each time we meet.
One on One Sessions
YOU
MIGHT COME
TO EXPLORE
People come for a HUGE variety of reasons. Some come with something definite they want to work with and some arrive with a nagging sense that there has to be more to the sexual or intimate lives.
You may recognise something that is going on for you or something you are desiring more of within the list that follows….
Support in communicating openly and respectfully about sexuality, gender or relationships with someone you care about
Your sex drive has completely disappeared
Your partner wants more sex than you
You want more sex than your partner
Curious about Tantra or BDSM
You or your partners porn use is getting out of hand
Your curious about your genitals and want to learn more genitals
You desire to regain a sense of acceptance and love for your body
Their is a loss of connection and intimacy with your partner
Anxiety around sex and intimacy, even the thought of it makes you uncomfortable
Pre orgasmic ( never experienced an orgasm) or those with erectile difficulties
You feel shame around your desires, your body, your gender, your sexuality
You are struggling with your gender identity or the way you identify sexually
You’re bored and want to spice things up in the bed room, but where do you start
You want to learn to be a better lover
You want more pleasure in your life
Maybe you just want to ask for what you want……..but what DO you want??
Relationship &
Intimacy Coaching
Working with me…
I see clients on either a one to one basis or as a couple. Sometimes people start out coming by themselves and then decide to bring their partner in at a later date. And sometimes they have sessions as a couple and then sessions by themselves. There is no “right”way…there is the just the best way for you.
Some people come for a one off session and others may spend many months or even years working with me. Generally I see people every two weeks and we use intentional somatic homework practices to strengthen the neural pathways we are creating. Others I see weekly or monthly. There's no one size fits all. Its really about finding what works best for you.
Sessions can be held both in person or via Zoom or a combination of the two and can be helpful if you are single, in a relationship, monogamous, poly amorous or in any other form of relationship
If you are interested in day long or weekend long immersions please contact me for more information
A Note
about body work…
Being certified to touch people, including their genitals, requires a deep understanding of our humanness and an ability to listen beneath a person words, to the story their body is telling. Body work can be a powerful way of negating shame and perceived judgments, either from self or others, which can riddle our lives with fear and anxiousness, if done slowly and in a way where a persons nervous system is kept safe and open. Consent therefore underpins all of my work and I value somatic consent, meaning I listen to your body, as well as your words.
Touch is only ever one way from me, the practitioner, to you, the client and gloves are worn at all times.
All touch is supplied with a learning intention in mind and although pleasure is not the objective it certainly shows up often on my table!
Working with me…
I see clients on either a one to one basis or as a couple. Sometimes people start out coming by themselves and then decide to bring their partner in at a later date. And sometimes they have sessions as a couple and then sessions by themselves. There is no “right”way…there is the just the best way for you.
Some people come for a one off session and others may spend many months or even years working with me. Generally I see people every two weeks and we use intentional somatic homework practices to strengthen the neural pathways we are creating. Others I see weekly or monthly. There's no one size fits all. Its really about finding what works best for you.
Sessions can be held both in person or via Zoom or a combination of the two and can be helpful if you are single, in a relationship, monogamous, poly amorous or in any other form of relationship
If you are interested in day long or weekend long immersions please contact me for more information
A Note about body work…
Being certified to touch people, including their genitals, requires a deep understanding of our humanness and an ability to listen beneath a person words, to the story their body is telling. Body work can be a powerful way of negating shame and perceived judgments, either from self or others, which can riddle our lives with fear and anxiousness, if done slowly and in a way where a persons nervous system is kept safe and open. Consent therefore underpins all of my work and I value somatic consent, meaning I listen to your body, as well as your words.
Touch is only ever one way from me, the practitioner, to you, the client and gloves are worn at all times.
All touch is supplied with a learning intention in mind and although pleasure is not the objective it certainly shows up often on my table!
Who do I work with…
Anyone and everyone.
I work with people of any and all genders, sexual identities or relationship dynamics.
Genital focused bodywork will only be consented to on people over the age of 18.
Although I specialise in the areas of sexuality, intimacy and pleasure my work is easily transferable to most people who find they are struggling with their current lives.
The people who I best like working with are those that understand that positive change comes from committed practice and understand that it may not be a linear process.
How it works…
The basis of my work is centered on the cutting edge advances being made in neuroscience. About how our brain develops and works in conjunction with our body and how we apply that knowledge to make long lasting change in our beings. It encompasses Somatic Counselling, Somatic Practices and Body Work, if required and a deep understanding of the ground breaking new field of interconnected neurobiology In order to support people to fully heal and grow to their utmost potential, we need to utilise the information, wisdom and power of our physical beings, realising that our mind and body are in the constant process of influencing each other.
On a scientific level, we are working together to grow new neural pathways in your brain to support a new way of showing up in the world. In practical terms this means teaching people to notice, feel and allow their physical and emotional responses and then support them in using that information within their interactions with others, to create more personal awareness and improve their decision making abilities, to feel more pleasure and to bring more pleasure to their partners and to feel more alive and engaged with life.
Research into neuro plasticity has shown that intentional somatic practice is the fastest pathway to learning and that we learn at an even quicker rate if that intentional practice is pleasurable!
Research is also revealing, particularity in the realms of treating trauma, that using body based practices in conjunction with talk therapy, is having much faster and better results than talk therapy alone.
As a certified Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Educator and Somatic Counselor I am trauma informed and uphold the following ethical guidelines.
You might come to explore……
People come for a HUGE variety of reasons. Some come with something definite they want to work with and some arrive with a nagging sense that there has to be more to the sexual or intimate lives.
You may recognise something that is going on for you or something you are desiring more of within the list that follows….
Support in communicating openly and respectfully about sexuality, gender or relationships with someone you care about
Your sex drive has completely disappeared
Your partner wants more sex than you
You want more sex than your partner
Curious about Tantra or BDSM
You or your partners porn use is getting out of hand
Your curious about your genitals and want to learn more genitals
You desire to regain a sense of acceptance and love for your body
Their is a loss of connection and intimacy with your partner
Anxiety around sex and intimacy, even the thought of it makes you uncomfortable
Pre orgasmic ( never experienced an orgasm) or those with erectile difficulties
You feel shame around your desires, your body, your gender, your sexuality
You are struggling with your gender identity or the way you identify sexually
You’re bored and want to spice things up in the bed room, but where do you start
You want to learn to be a better lover
You want more pleasure in your life
Maybe you just want to ask for what you want……..but what DO you want??
What happens in a session…
Creating a safe and comfortable environment where you can talk openly and honestly, about any issue you may be having without, fear of being shamed or judged, is my only goal in our work together. I have no other agenda.
Sessions are generally 1.5 hours long and can be held over Zoom or in person at my clinic rooms in the Lower Kaimai’s, Tauranga. Our time together will be a combination of talking, body work, if required, and somatic practices, which are simple yet effective practices working with movement, breath, sound, touch and placement of awareness.
Somatic exercises bring the focus of attention from the mind and back into the body, and can be effective in helping emotions process and move through the body, alleviating symptoms and troubling thoughts.
Somatic Sexuality Sessions are client led, co created and never the same, as my role is to meet you empathetically, congruently and with unconditional positive regard, wherever you are in your journey, each time we meet.
