I often get asked

What sort of people do you work with?

I work with people of all ages, of all genders, of all sexual orientations and in all types of relationship structures. According to a strict code of ethics, it is my intention to facilitate a safe, permission based space where you can explore and engage your sexuality, learn what pleasure and intimacy looks like to you, and support you in implementing this into your life.

What will happen in our intake/first session?

In our first session, there will be lots of talking! I need a full background of your history that relates to our work together and this supports us to create safety and trust. This is also built by getting to know each other, by communicating desires, intentions, boundaries, fears and expectations. You will remain fully clothed. Even though you may want to dive on in, I have found the slower we go in the beginning the more beneficial it is in the long run.

How do I get the most value out
of my sessions?

Practice, practice, practice! The real work happens at home. Your homework strengthens the neural pathways creating different feelings, new levels of awareness and ultimately more choice and a new way of being. To get the most out of your investment, committing to attending regular sessions is just the beginning.

How often should I come
and how long are the session?

How often you come is entirely up to you. Most people come every week or once every two weeks. This allows for a good length of time for practice. Session are 1.5 hours long, although they can be longer or shorter if required.

Can I come once, to see if I like you?

This work is extremely rewarding but isn’t for everyone, so I therefore offer a 30 minute, no obligation, discovery call. This gives us a chance to feel each other out and discuss your intentions, expectations and ask any questions you may have.  Once we have decided there is value for you in attending a session, we will book an intake session. If I don’t feel I am the best person to help you, I will refer you to someone I feel is better suited.

How does it work if we come as a couple?

Supporting couples to expand their sexual and relationship skills is something I am particularly passionate about. Increasing our skills in these areas is the quickest way to make our erotic lives easier and more pleasurable, but the truly incredible effect that it has on all aspects of our lives is the real gold! I always encourage touch between partners, and all touch given by me needs to be consented to by both parties.

Do we have sex?

Short answer: no. Long answer: it depends on what you consider sex to be!! Your pleasure, ejaculation, orgasms are all welcome in the space we create, but this is neither the goal nor expectation. My role is to support you create the learning and pleasure you desire within yourself, therefore even though you may feel highly aroused, I will stay grounded and focused on you.

I will stay fully clothed, and gloves are worn if you ask for touch from me. Touch is encouraged if you feel you need to ground and calm yourself. You are welcome to touch my arms and legs. There is no genital touch from you to me. There may be times when I use my arm to demonstrate, or have you practice different types of touch on.

Do I have to take my clothes off?

No. A lot of what you learn is embodiment which can all be taught with your clothes on. Touch practices can be taught using your arm and you can then later, within the privacy of your own home, use your entire body. You are, of course, entirely welcome to take all your clothes off! I will keep mine on. Always.

What if I say yes and then change my mind?

You are in full control. You always have the right to say yes and no. I am also trained to read your somatic cues and above all else, I honour them. Sometimes our mind wants to try something new and our body says no. I am trained to listen not only to your words but more importantly, to what your body wants. Keeping people in their optimal learning zone rather than their “freak the f%#k out zone” is an important distinction in the way I work.

What if I say no and then change my mind?

At all times your no is valued as beautifully as your yes.  Each session has its own unique educational contract meaning we pre negotiate all boundaries and the amount of clothing to be removed before any touch happens. I will uphold your boundaries as set in the contract, regardless of you changing your mind. We have the ability to create highly arousing experiences which change our conscious state. If in those states your predetermined boundaries are crossed, it can lead to shame and judgment of oneself. So therefore, I will never step outside of our educational contract.  

Do I have to do anything special before I arrive?

If you feel bodywork/genital touch may be part of your learning and desire for the session I ask that you shower before arriving. Excellent personal hygiene is one of my boundaries! If you are unable to shower and would like to, there is one available for use within my practice.

How can I pay you?

By Eftpos or cash. I am also more than happy to set up payment plans for those who require it.

Will anyone find out if I’ve been to see you?

Only if you tell them! To be perfectly transparent, my clients are my best marketing tool. My desire is that you feel safe enough to share your experiences with those you trust. All my records are completely confidential. Your name will never be disclosed to anyone. If you have concerns that someone may identify you from your vehicle, you are welcome to park around the back on the lawn.